Ah, please don't take this essay too seriously nor consider me as "a date doctor". Historically, I repeatedly fell in love in some girls before I dated my wife but, obviously, I failed all of those.... 55555
Anyway, I was proud in what I did.... You know, the door just did not swing both ways, so why bothered? :) At least I knew that I liked girls, not boys nor men--- do you know what I mean?
As a scientist, I was really interested in development of human genders: how we develop ourselves to be a man, a woman and, you know, someone in between, gays.... :)
I notice that the percentages and numbers of gay people in Thailand were much higher than what I'd seen in the US. Even in the US, socially and culturally, Americans were more accepting this than it was in our country, yet we were experiencing more and more of homosexual people.
Interesting enough, American gays did not explicitly show their sexual orientation in public but, for the Thai counterparts, their orientations were quite conspicuously revealing.
Well, I didn't mind though.... Because I didn't feel those explicit demonstration as a sex appeal by no means. For me, it's simply a self-expression which didn't seem to offend me in any aspect.
For girls (heterosexual ones), this explicity was a help not hurt in my opinion. At least, these girls were able to differentiate who they could develop a serious relationship. But, for those whose all "gayhood" characteristics were well-hidden were of interest, how could you girls place them into a correct category?
My observations and posted questions, these might look silly, but it would be, at least, a waste of time if you fell in love with a gay man, right? :) You could spend your time with gardening, shopping and cooking rather than wanting to have a love affair with someone who definitely would (and could) not "love" you back! :)
Well, if you sought a platonic love, you would be fine and could stop reading my gibberishing. But if you sought love between a man and woman, I think, it would be wise if you would ask a guy (or a gay) with these two following questions:
1) Are you married?, and, 2) Are you gay?
Don't be shy.... I think it's important, be straightforward before you jumped into a serious relationship with someone. There were fewer and fewer true good men out there, they were waiting for you too... To maximize your chance in this "competitive market", these two questions could assure you something that you might truly seek for.
At the beginning of this writing, even they were my personal observations/speculations, but I believe it's more or less true that, since numbers of men were finite, when the numbers of gay men were exponentially increasing like this, the numbers of real men were, inevitably, decreasing dramatically....
It's simple mathematics krub, there was no needs to have Einstein to confirm this fact. It's too obvious. :)
================================= Note: My life has been intertwined with works and many others. New responsibility has emerged, resulting less and less time for my ordinary life. Although, a love to write is still intact... But having less time is related to having less imagination.... Therefore, I could not come up with new writings for quite some times.
It might be a good time for me to leave this forum for moment.... Please take it as Mr. A.T. is having a sabbactatical leave or something like that....
As noted above, my love to write is still the same... and will not be changed. Sometimes somehow, I hope I could come back and give some thoughts in this blog once more.
Cheers, Mr. A.T. June 6th, 2008
My pen-name in Pantip is amatuer translator. Actually, I'm a lousy translator with lame translation. My pen-name is somewhat misleading, I have no background in linguistics what-so-ever. Anyway I love to read, write and communicate with people...
Reading is my most favorite hobby. I read everything from shopping bags to articles in theoretical physics. I do research and teaching for my living. So, reading, writing, thinking and doing research works are my everyday routine.
I would like to define myself as a person who is accepting new ideas and adopting those into my way of life.
I believe in power of knowledge/education. I think every society can be a better society with knowledge. Ignorance can be dispelled by it. Humanity can live sustainably and harmoniously with each other along with its biosphere with understandings in the nature surrounding it.
Apart from my philosophical thoughts reflecting who I am, I can tell you something I like or love in particular;
I love dogs.... Particularly, labradore retrievers.... One day, I would like to spend my time and life with them as a big part of my family.
Zhuge Liang is my hero. With his wisdom and faithfulness, he led a tiny army to a mighty and formidable kingdom. He left his humble residence with a hope to come back. But, sadly, he had never returned and died far far away from home in a horse carriage in a battle field. If I could choose where I would, I would say where-ever my lovely wife was nearby.
I value happiness and my family as my first priority. My profession and my philosophy come in the second. Pursuit in wealth has never been in my desire.
I'm glad to be your friend, and look forward to seeing you around krub.